Most men will cheat on their Pregnant wives. They cannot control this. In fact, if they could, no man would like to see the “to be Mother of his child” spend sleepless nights wondering who he will pick next. Pregnancy is a time when the body and mind need rest and sleep the most. However, this is not easy if your husband keeps looking at other women.

Most women have suffered terribly over this, leading to strained marriages and a difficult pregnancy.

Case study

Kate has been married to Nicolas for 5 years. He has been an honest and faithful man throughout their marriage. One evening during a family dinner, Kate and her sister who by then was pregnant with their second child; started to talk about children and motherhood. Later that evening, Kate and Nicolas replayed the conversation at length. Finally, they decided to give it a try. One month later Kate and Nicolas were happily pregnant. Unfortunately, like all other men, Nicolas could not help but cheat on Kate. One morning while on vacation at a country hotel, Kate was feeling too hot to sleep and decided to step into the bathroom for a warm shower. She could hear some weird sounds back in the bedroom. She tried to ignore but then when a lady giggled she just had to check. Kate put on her bathing robe and opened the door to find Nicolas in bed with the hotels’ laundry girl. Kate started screaming and Nicolas gently pats her back to soothe her. That morning during breakfast Nicolas tried to have Kate talk about the incident but she refused to discuss. Perhaps because she felt that Nicolas will view her as being insecure and paranoid.

Why it happens

Delphi Ellis, a qualified therapist said that most of her clients have approached her with dreams that their partner is cheating. She says that this is usually a fear rather than evidence.

This is commonly the case during pregnancy when our bodies and subconscious mind go through major changes. We are unsure of how we will handle the new responsibilities of being a mother and sometimes very afraid.

Some women have also confessed losing their self-esteem and feeling less attractive. It is during this time when we need the assurance of our spouse the most. We want to feel and know he will be with us through this difficult journey.

Other dream experts have confirmed the reason why pregnancy dreams tend to be more vivid to our sleep patterns. It is difficult to sleep well during pregnancy, often waking up to pee or adjust the pillow, “we usually wake up In the middle of a dream so it is easier to recall it.”

Way Out

Like Kate, most women are afraid to talk to their mates about “cheating dreams” However, this is the best phycological remedy especially for mother and child, who thrive on the assurance of Love and Protection.

Some couples have even managed to talk and laugh about these dreams.

What vivid cheating dreams and experiences have you had? How did you handle them?

By Eunice Ojow